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    November 06

    Here and there

    With my quite regular postings at 4th Point and the popularity of Facebook, we're getting the feeling not too many people are looking us up here anymore.  If you'd like to connect with us, may we suggest you try either of those.  Of course, you're still welcome to reminisce through this site here!  -- Stanley
    May 11

    Retreat

    At the end of April, Monica and I enjoyed a very relaxing and rejuvenating retreat for pastors and spouses of pastors at Barnabas Family Ministries on Keat’s Island in Howe Sound.  The scenery was breathtaking, the food delicious, the accommodations luxurious, the speaker (Mark Buchanan) inspiring, and the hospitality welcoming.  If you ever have the opportunity to attend a conference at Barnabas, we highly recommend it!

    March 25

    Frog eye

    I'm not sure how many people are still checking this (maybe let us know if you are!).  It's been a while since we've posted anything here for a few reasons...
      ::  it takes time away from interacting with family and friends irl ("in real life");
      ::  we're behind in sorting (and posting) photos;
      ::  I'm now sharing reflections and thoughts over at 4thpoint.wordpress.com.

    Our home computer is in the shop being repaired at the moment.  If I had it, I'd take a picture of our backyard and post it here, comparing it with this picture from one of the albums currently online:



    Here you see Grandma (my mom) and Hannah on warmer days (read: last summer), and in the background, you see a frog-shaped sandbox.  Until a couple days ago, that sandbox was completely buried in snow since November.  Earlier this week, Hannah looked out the window and exclaimed, "I see the frog's eye!"  The snow is still mostly covering the sandbox (there's still over a foot of it), but a little green corner has now emerged in our white backyard.  Spring is certainly late this year, but now I'm finally starting to think that it may indeed be coming.

    More pictures, including of Jacob's second birthday, will be added eventually, hopefully sooner rather than later...
         -- Stanley
    November 27

    Honest thanksgiving

    A colleague of mine, Rick Apperson, commented on the time of devotions/worship I led at a recent Bulkley Valley Ministerial meeting.  I talked about how psalms of lament (of all things!) can help us honestly celebrate Thanksgiving Day (today in the US, last month in Canada).  I hope to write more about that sometime, but in meantime, read Rick's reflections on it and a psalm of lament he helped write.

         -- Stanley
    September 28

    The bachelor life

    These are interesting days.
     
    Following our vacation to the Okanagan a couple weeks ago, Hannah and I went to Abbotsford -- I had a classis meeting to go to and Hannah spent time with my parents.  When I flew home again, I left Hannah with Dad & Mom G.  A couple days later, Monica left for a conference in Grand Rapids MI.  That leaves Jacob and me home together...  We're a couple of bachelors!  (Thankfully I have lots of help with Jacob while I'm at work.)
     
    Meanwhile, Jacob is certainly learning how to communicate more and more.  "Daddy," "Mommy," and "Hannah" have been quite clear for a while now.  He says "Please," while "Thank you" still requires a fair bit of translation.  I wonder if Jacob is going to be truck driver when he grows up because he points out every single truck he sees out his window or while we're driving.  "Big truck!" can refer to a semi, a pickup, a van, and the occasional SUV.  Today Jacob made some new friends at the Smithers CRC nursery as I was preaching there for both services.  The attendants said he had a good time, but it sure was special to see him get excited to see me arrive to pick him up afterwards.
     
    So, we're doing quite fine, the two of us.  And we hope Monica and Hannah are having fun where they are.

    But we're looking forward to next week when everyone is home again, too.

         -- Stanley
     
    September 24

    Memoirs of a former pastor

    In the 1980s and 1990s, Pastor Alvin Beukema was pastor at Gateway (a.k.a. First) CRC Abbotsford, the church in which I grew up.  At the end of 2006, he published a memoir specifically for his children and grandchildren; however, as longtime friends, my parents also have the honour of being in possession of a copy.  There is a small mention of my parents and I towards the end of the book where Pastor Alvin reflects on Synod 2006...

    "Synod was intense.  I was not the oldest, but neither the youngest [delegate].  Pastor Stan Groothof must have been one of the youngest pastor delegates.  He represented [Classis] BCNW.  In 2005, I had the privilege of attending his classical examination in Maple Ridge [BC] as synodical deputy.  It was a joy to be able to concur with classis to approve his ordination to the ministry of the Word and Sacraments in the Christian Reformed Church.  He accepted a call to Telkwa and was elected first alternate delegate to Synod [2006].  Since Pastor Pieter Sinia of New Westminster could not go, Stan Groothof went.  In [2003], he attended synod as an elder of the Gateway CRC, Abbotsford.  [Three years later] he attended synod as pastor or minister Stan Groothof.  Ever since 1981 we have always had a wonderful and supportive relationship with his parents Henry and Alice Groothof."

    I corrected the year in which I first attended synod, but that certainly doesn't detract from his positive memories of me.

    To my knowledge, no else has written a memoir in which I'm mentioned.  I sincerely feel honoured!

         -- Stanley
    August 11

    "Why Do We Dress Our Daughters Like Skanks?"

    I've had something published again!  Someone from Telkwa CRC suggested a particular sermon of mine to the editor of Christian Courier who expressed interest in it.  I submitted it and it appeared in the 14 Jul 2008 edition.  Cool!  It's entitled "Why Do We Dress Our Daughters Like Skanks?"  As I note right at the beginning, it's "ripped from the headlines" of the Maclean's cover story of 1 Jan 2007.  You'll find it in "A Sampling of Sermons" under "Writings" (one of the boxes down the left hand side of this blog) or you get to it directly here.
     
         -- Stanley
     
    June 28

    Unbelievable

    It's hard to believe how fast Hannah and Jacob are growing up and learning new things.  Jacob continues to be our adventurous climber.  He is beginning to speak, saying things like "Daddy" and "Mommy" and "Opa" and "Oma" and "Please" and "Thank you" and "Amen."  Of course, he has an older sister teaching him lots of new words.  Hannah strings together all sorts of words into some pretty unique sentences...  She likes describing Jacob's dirty diapers and whispering in our ears that she loves us.  Both of them love playing in their sandbox, but Jacob still isn't too wild about running through the sprinkler on a hot day though he loves playing with water otherwise.  Hannah would probably run through the sprinkler even on a cold day if we'd let her!  Any day the sun is out is a "hot" day, according to Hannah, worthy of getting wet outside.  Hannah will very proudly tell you that she is "two-and-three-quarters," but that she's also looking forward to having birthday cake with both sets of grandparents (what about us though?) on her third birthday.  Jacob will undoubtedly enjoy the cake, too, insisting that he eat it all by himself like he does with almost all food these days which often makes for messy (but fun) eating around our table.
     
    Now we just need to get around to uploading some pictures of some of the above...   -- Stanley
    April 07

    Poster Boy

    Have you ever Googled yourself, that is, ran a search for your name on the internet?  I did the other day.  One link really surprised me.  According to the Sep 2006 edition of The Outlook (p. 28), the remarks I made at Synod 2006 have made me the poster boy of at least one thing that is wrong with the Christian Reformed Church.  Of the plethora of comments made -- most from wiser and more experienced individuals with sound biblical and theological arguments -- they quoted me?!  I'm not sure whether I should be embarrassed or proud.
         -- Stanley

    March 21

    Things we see and hear

    Stanley and I hear and see the craziest things these days!  Hannah loves to be "mom" to Jacob and we will often see her pulling Jacob off his feet to stop him from reaching something he shouldn't.  She also keeps a close eye on him as he learns to venture down the stairs.  "Feet first Jacob!" we hear as she grabs him around the waist to make sure that he doesn't go down head first.  Little does she realize that Mommy is waiting right there to help Jacob down.  Jacob however is getting larger.  He is almost 25 pounds and only 5 behind Hannah.  He shows how well he has been paying attention to Hannah's techniques as now when Hannah has a toy he would like, he tackles her and lays on top of her until he can reach it...  This often ends in Stan or me pulling him off of her and opening his firm grip on her temptingly long curly hair and mediating the dispute.  I'm pretty sure I'll be able to add some new descriptions of skills to my resume when I should decide to find a job somewhere down the road.

    One thing we saw just today was Jacob sliding down the slide at the playground by himself and loving it!  The look of sheer delight and the squealing of anticipation of more is one of the best parts of being a parent.  We also realize that this year Hannah will be much more independent at the playground as she is a little taller and just last week was finally able to climb up the levels of the McDonald's Playplace by herself.  Go Hannah!

    Thinking of things we hear these days, I would have to say that we agree with the statement that "kids say the darndest things!"  The other day as Hannah, Jacob and I were going to town, Hannah was a little of out sorts, so I asked her if she being grumpy.  She said, "I not grumpy, I just have freckles on my cheeks."  This next anecdote might clear that up a little.  Once again, after a nap (which has morphed into quiet time), I asked her if she was still grumpy and she responded, "I still grumpy here and here and here!"  (pointing to three different places on her cheeks).

    Hannah is learning more about sharing.  She told Stanley at breakfast today, "I share Hannah's van with Daddy and I share Hannah's house with Daddy."  Stanley and I just wonder when she will begin to share toys with Jacob...

         -- Monica

    March 13

    Frozen

    Living with the Bulkley River in one's backyard is not without its excitement.  Earlier this winter, Monica and I happened to look out the window at just the right moment; if we had been gone for the afternoon, we would have missed it all...

    We were watching large chunks of ice floating quite fast down the river when they began to dramatically slow down and then stop altogether.  The river was all plugged up with a big buildup of ice.  Without warning, the ice at the edge of the river heaved upwards and suddenly water came pouring down into the lower part of our backyard.  What took several days to fill up during the flood of June 2007 filled up in a matter of minutes.  Monica and I looked at each other and said, "Uh, how much higher is that water going to come?"  Thankfully, it did not come high enough to submerge the upper part of our backyard.

    After a few more minutes, the ice jam broke up and the chunks of ice began flowing freely down the river again.  The lower part of the backyard slowly drained and everything returned to normal.  A while later, the river was frozen over again, but I guess enough water kept flowing beneath the ice that it didn't get pushed to higher ground.

    The photos, unfortunately, don't do justice to the drama of that afternoon, but we're posting a few anyway.  Enjoy...
         -- Stanley

    December 28

    Only half a year later

    Well, it took nearly half a year, but some pictures from Hannah's birthday are now online.  The "Fall 2007" album contains pictures from August-November.  Hopefully sometime before next June, we'll post some recent Christmas pictures!  We got some real cute ones!

    Everyone is doing well as the year winds to a close.  In a week or so, we'll be entering our fourth year here in Telkwa.  It's truly amazing how time flies!  We continue to love being in this part of the world.  I continue to find my work at Telkwa CRC meaningful, and both Monica and I seldom have a dull moment around the house with the two kids.  We've got great friends who look after Hannah and Jacob once in a while so we can get away on a date with just the two of us!  A couple months ago, we finally broke down and bought a van -- a new Dodge Grand Caravan.  We probably should have gone straight from the ZX2 to a van, but, well, it took a while for me to get psyched up to being a minivan family...

    Hannah is constantly learning new words, and she talks a lot!  (I can't figure out where she gets that from...)  Sometimes she surprises us with what she all says; a couple weeks ago, she said "Merry Christmas" to me, and I don't think either Monica or I had said that to her yet.  She has several favourite phrases such as, "Hannah do it!" and "Hit the road, Jack."  (Again, I can't figure out where gets that last one from...)  She's only recently been introduced to hot chocolate and it has certainly become her beverage of choice.  I think she would drink it at breakfast, lunch, dinner and bedtime if we allowed it.  Some of her favourite activities include going for walks, playing with friends, attending Sunday school with the big kids, watching Veggie Tales, talking on the phone, taking a bath, playing with water, blowing her nose (with sound effects from her mouth), being read to, writing, painting, and using scissors.  Not too terribly long ago, Hannah graduated from her crib to a "big girl bed," which has improved her bedtime routine and her sleeping patterns, thankfully.  She loves how Monica and I can snuggle beside her for a few minutes now at bedtime.

    Jacob has learned to crawl and pull himself up on things (such as the furniture and his parents' legs).  He is also known to climb stairs.  In short, he is really getting around now and is finding his way into everything!  He's finally growing some hair, but it's kinda at a funny stage right now.  Currently he has five teeth -- three on top, two on bottom.  For fun, Jacob plays with Lego and blocks, takes baths, jumps in his Jumperoo, sleeps, and watches Veggie Tales with Hannah.  He continues to receive lots (and lots and lots) of hugs and kisses from Hannah, who also likes showing Jacob how to do things.  Jacob still naps twice a day, and, on good days, his and Hannah's afternoon naps are synchronized, making for a quiet hour or so.

    It's really quite amazing how fast Hannah and Jacob are growing.  It is fun watching them develop and learn new things.  There have been lots of changes over the past few months.  Monica and I have indeed been blessed, and we're looking forward to what 2008 holds for our family.

    -- Stanley

    November 27

    "From Burdened to Blessed"

    I just had my first article published in a journal!  Together with one of Telkwa CRC's musicians, I submitted a Lenten order of worship with commentary to Reformed Worship earlier this year for their consideration.  Entitled "From Burdened to Blessed," it appears in the latest issue (Dec 2007), the theme of which is Lent, Holy Week and Easter.  How cool is that!   -- Stanley

    by Stanley J. Groothof and Curt Gesch


    Background

    This liturgy has three movements: confession, assurance, and rededication. It’s as though the reconciliation part of worship that is common in many Reformed churches is magnified to encompass the entire service.

    Because I refer to him in the meditation, I used Saint Augustine’s words about finding rest in God as the opening sentences. This theme is immediately picked up again in the gathering hymn, especially in stanza 4. Another
    communion hymn that echoes this theme is “In the Quiet Consecration” (PsH 302).

    After reading Psalm 32, I posed two questions to the congregation, asking them to discuss them in several small groups for a few minutes and then share their insights with the entire body. I invite congregational discussion from time to time, finding that the message is more memorable when people interact with the material. Perhaps this is one of the blessings of being part of a small church that would be more difficult to do in a meaningful way in a large church.

    Following the meditation, we sang David T. Koyzis’s versification of Psalm 32 to the Genevan melody. After the pianist played it through once, two leaders helped us sing it a cappella; we have a number of seniors with a Dutch background in the congregation for whom the melody came quite easily.

    The liturgy for the Lord’s Supper comes from the Christian Reformed Church’s 1994 form. The quotations from Psalms 34 and 116 were spoken immediately before the partaking of communion.

    Picking up on the custom of giving up things for Lent and spending the time in prayer and/or focusing on Christ’s sacrifice, I encouraged the congregation to think carefully about what they choose to fast from and feast on with the words of “Fast and Feast During Lent,” a poem that was given to me by a member of the congregation. It can be read by a pastor or by another reader.

    The parting hymn and blessing echo the forgiveness promised in Psalm 32 and celebrated in the sacrament. The descending notes of the two-fold Amen (PsH 214) seemed an appropriate way to conclude a Lenten service.

    Meditation Starters

    How familiar are you with Psalm 32? When was the last time you read it? Apparently Saint Augustine had the words of this psalm inscribed on the wall above his bed so he would read this call to confession daily. He wanted to make the psalmist’s words his words.

    In today’s church, confession is going out of style. Worship leaders are afraid it will make churchgoers feel unnecessarily bad about themselves and that it may frighten away seekers to whom we want to be sensitive. My colleague Craig Hoekema counters this fear by stating boldly: “If the service of confession is avoided due to a fear of turning away those who are newly approaching the church, then why should these people even come? If we are not exposing to seekers (and ourselves) our deepest need for Christ and for renewal in worship, then why are they there?” (Kerux, 21 Oct. 2004). Becoming more familiar with Psalm 32 is a way to more deeply appreciate our need to confess and the gift of forgiveness through Jesus.

    Forgiveness is the high point of this psalm, indeed of the life of the psalmist David. Forgiveness—the result of his confession—removes David’s burden. There is a definite shift beginning at verse 5: “Then I acknowledged my sin to you . . . and you forgave the guilt of my sin.” Robert Davidson speaks of how in David’s experience, “release only came through acknowledging to God the wrong within him” (The Vitality of Worship: A Commentary on the Book of Psalms). Then the heaviness and weariness of the opening verses give way to joy and praise.

    At the Lord’s Supper table, we find ourselves at the selah, the gap between verses 4 and 5. Weighed down by our sin, God invites us to confess . . . and then experience—even taste!—his merciful forgiveness. In this meal the Holy Spirit makes real to us how the blood of Christ shed on the cross covers our iniquity and we are reconciled to God. What relief! Let’s rejoice in the Lord with David.
     

    Order of Worship

    1. Confession

    Prelude

    Opening Sentences
    O Lord, Thou hast made us,
    and our spirits are restless until we find rest in Thee.
       —Saint Augustine

    Gathering Hymn: “O Jesus, Joy of Loving Hearts” PsH 307

    God’s Greeting

    Responsive Prayer of Adoration
    O Christ, Savior, like the seed fallen to the ground
    you suffered death.
    United to you, our lives will bear much fruit.
       We praise you, Lord.
    O Christ, you went down to the lowest point of the human condition;
    you remain close to all who are abandoned.
       We praise you, Lord.
    In your love, you took upon yourself our sins;
    innocent, you accepted death to free us from death.
       We praise you, Lord.
    By your love you conquered evil and hatred,
    and you live forever at the Father’s side.
       We praise you, Lord.
    You listen to us in your goodness, and you visit us in our misfortune;
    fill our hearts to overflowing by revealing to us the light of your face.
       We praise you, Lord. Amen.
      
    —Worship Sourcebook J.1.4.1

    Lenten Hymn: “What Wondrous Love” CH 314, PH 85, PsH 379, TH 261, WR 257

    Scripture Reading: Psalm 32

    Meditation

    2. Assurance

    Prayer of Response
    God of compassion,
    you are slow to anger and full of mercy,
    welcoming sinners who return to you with penitent hearts.
    Receive in your loving embrace
    all who come home to you.
    Seat them at your bountiful table of grace,
    that, with all your children,
    they may feast with delight
    on all that satisfies the hungry heart.
    We ask this in the name of Jesus Christ, our Savior,
    who lives and reigns with you in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
    one God, forever and ever. Amen.
       —Worship Sourcebook J.2.2.6

    Psalm: “How Blest the One Whose Trespass Is Forgiven,”
       —Genevan Psalter 32, versification © 2006 by David T. Koyzis

    Celebration of the Lord’s Supper

    Psalm of Response: “O Come, My Soul, Sing Praise to God” (Psalm 103) PsH 297, st. 1-2

    3. Rededication

    God’s will for our lives: “Fast and Feast During Lent”
    Fast from discontent; feast on gratitude.
    Fast from anger; feast on patience.
    Fast from worry; feast on faith.
    Fast from complaining; feast on appreciation.
    Fast from bitterness; feast on forgiveness.
    Fast from self-centeredness; feast on compassion for others.
    Fast from lethargy; feast on enthusiasm.
    Fast from emphasis on differences; feast on recognizing unity.
    Fast from unsettling anxiety; feast on inner peace.
    Fast from half-heartedness; feast on commitment.
       —Author and source unknown

    Hymn of Dedication: “Spirit of God, Who Dwells within My Heart” (PsH 419, st. 1-2, with a newly written versification of Ps 51:13 by Stanley J. Groothof):
    Help me to teach your righteous love to all;
    open my lips and I’ll declare your praise.
    Then those who hear will answer to your call;
    sinners will turn to you for all their days.

    Offering

    Parting hymn: “O Christ, Our Lord, Dear Son of God” PsH 372

    God’s Blessing: Galatians 1:2-5

    Doxology: Twofold “Amen” PsH 214


    Authors
    Curt Gesch (
    curtgesch@hotmail.com) is a musician and member of Telkwa (British Columbia) Christian Reformed Church.
    Stanley J. Groothof (
    telkwapastor@hotmail.com) is pastor of Telkwa (British Columbia) Christian Reformed Church.

     

    August 19

    Newspaper birth announcements

    The Interior News ran Jacob's birth announcement the other week.   I don't think we ever uploaded Hannah's birth announcement from the local paper, so here are both of them.  -- Stanley
     
    August 09

    Common uncourteousy

    Last week, our part of Telkwa was without water for about a day because of a pipe that broke.  (This happened the day after the power went out because of a wind storm.  I think it was worse to be without water than without electricity.)
     
    To fix the problem, maintenance personnel had to dig 10 feet down below the sidewalk adjacent to the post office.  They were working on filling in the hole again after fixing the pipe when I was walking to get the mail.
     
    I thanked one of the men for their hard work and for having the service restored a bit earlier than predicted.  He just about dropped his shovel.  All day, apparently, people had been less than gracious towards the work crew.  "You'd think I made the pipe burst on purpose," he said in effect.
     
    What on earth did people think they would accomplish by getting mad at the people fixing the problem?  If it had been up to me (and probably most of the complainers) to fix it, we still wouldn't have water service restored!  I am grateful for the talented and hardworking people who know how to fix these things, and Monica and I thanked God in prayer for keeping them safe down in that deep hole.
     
    Why isn't common courtesy so common anymore?   -- Stanley
     
    June 12

    Long-awaited update

    Well, Monica and I have finally uploaded a bunch (a schwack, really) of new pics of our family as well as of the recent flooding of the Bulkley River.  It took us longer to accomplish this feat primarily because of two reasons: The Inverse Law of Usenet Bandwidth and a mildly addicting little internet phenomenon known as Facebook.  See you online...  unless, of course, something interesting is happening!   -- Stanley
    March 02

    A boost for Hannah

    Hannah recently decided that she no longer likes sitting in her high chair.  So she has graduated from to a booster seat at the table, which she loves.  She is getting so big!
     
    In other news, you can catch a couple guys from Telkwa CRC skiing and snowboarding on YouTube.  You'll see Luke Fokkens in "Rayz Rail Jam" (look for his name in the bottom left corner; you might want to mute the Young Jeezy soundtrack).  He says he came in second place doing the jib jam.  I'm not really sure what that means, but it sounds fun.  Luke's brother Bryan is in the video called "Rayz Park 4."  -- Stanley
     
    PS: Keep checking the "Jacob's Arrival" photo album...  there are a couple new pictures in there now and we'll try to add more soon!
     
    February 17

    Hello Jacob!

    On Thursday (15 Feb), we welcomed Jacob Hendrik Groothof into the world!  He was born at 9:17pm (PT) at Bulkley Valley District Hospital in Smithers, weighing in at 3650 g (just over 8 lbs).  Jacob was very excited about entering the world: We arrived at the hospital at 7:30pm and he was born less than two hours later!  His big sister, Hannah (1½ years old now), was glad to meet him the next morning and has already showered him with kisses.
     
    Like with Hannah, Jacob’s name echoes of other people in our family trees.  He is named after Stan’s mom’s late mother, Jacoba; Monica’s dad’s late mother, Hendrika; and Stan’s dad, Henry.  Both his first and middle name (or variations thereof) appear elsewhere here and there in our family trees, as well.
     
    We thank God for Jacob’s safe arrival and that he is a very healthy baby boy.  Jacob and Monica are doing so well that they are already home from the hospital – less than 24 hours later!   -- Stanley
    February 05

    Speaking Italian and other new things

    In addition to "Da!" (short for "Daddy"), Hannah has been saying "Mama," but it sounds more like "MAA-ma!"  It's like she's Italian or something!
     
    We add that to a whole pile of new things Hannah has been learning lately...
       she knows what a train, a lamb, a cow, a chicken, a duck, a dog, and (our favourite) a pig all say
         she says a few words like "light" and "coffee" (the little addict!)
       she uses sign language to say "more," "please," and "thank you"
      she builds (and demolishes) towers out of blocks
       she puts on her boots (though sometimes on her hands)
         she brings us things when we ask for them (when she wants to!)
       she turns on the TV and Monica's clock radio, cranking up the volume
      she helps set the table (in her own unique way!)
       she speed-dials Stan's office number on the phone (soon there'll be phone calls to China on our phone bill!)
         she (repeatedly) launches the calculator on Stan's computer at work
       she sits fairly still and quiet for the opening part of worship before going down to the nursery
      she climbs onto furniture (check out the movie we posted)
     
    That's our big girl!  And she'll only seem bigger when Baby #2 arrives, hopefully any day now...
         -- Stanley + Monica
     
    February 01

    Does House actually care?

    Any of you watch this week's episode of House, "One Day, One Room?"  (Seeing that it captured its biggest audience of the season by far, it's likely you did.)  Instead of the usual race to discover and cure the disease of the week, this week's change of pace was nice where Dr. House is actually forced to care for a patient instead of only her symptoms.  But let’s analyze the substance of this episode for a moment as Monica and I did yesterday morning over breakfast, shall we?
     
    The episode's happy ending occurs when the rape victim makes the “rational choice” of “terminating” her pregnancy.  That decision is made to show that she’s finally worked through her guilt and grief.  My faith convictions have trouble with that.
     
    By taking this action, she literally lets go of what the rapist “left behind,” so to speak.  But what about the fact that the unborn child is half hers?  The emphasis is entirely (not mostly or somewhat, with which I would be fine) on the rapist’s contribution to the pregnancy.
     
    What's more, those who lobby for women’s rights to have an abortion frequently speak of a woman’s choice.  The rape victim hardly had a choice:  She was intimidated into her “choice” of terminating the pregnancy by House’s “rational logic.”  House even ridiculed her as she struggled with understanding the sacredness of all life.  Discussing this episode, my colleague, Dan,  noted that while House's acerbic remarks are typically directed towards his patients' character flaws, this week his ridicule was (to use Dan's words) "aimed at all those who look beyond immediate self-interest in their support of the preservation and promotion of the gift of life."  House could have mentioned (even in passing) the possibility of adoption, or how many single moms succeed at life and parenting (that, of course, would be out of character, though, and heaven forbid that he begins to change for the better).  However, the only “choice” given her was House’s direction to get an abortion.
     
    So, yeah, we liked the change of pace of the episode, especially how House was stretched to actually care about a particular patient… though one could argue in light of the above whether he truly cared or not.  But in the end, that hour of TV left a bad taste in our mouth.   -- Stanley